need /home and /sethome commands whitelist that can be updated without having to restart the server, and non-capslock sensitive (duh)
Uh, you should really check the plugin releases forums. There are two plugins that accomplish your first goal already. The second I am not sure on; I think I saw something about it though.
I'm pretty sure you're 2nd request is currently impossible due to the nature of the minecraft server (i.e. everything external is loaded only at startup)
Uuuuhm... Everything is loaded when a plugin requests it to be loaded - it all just depends on how the plugin is coded. ;-) And when something is loaded in bukkit's case is also a matter of bukkit, not the Minecraft Server itself.
You should give the PrivateWarp plugin a go. Still, user permissions is not yet done. It's being worked on.
Also my Latest Plugin Guest Book is a WhiteList that auto updates were people can still join but cant build till a admin sets it and you can use MyHome for /sethome /home
Yea, I posted a "Small version" of MyHome with only /home and /home set. But once Bukkit permissions come out, you'll be able to disable any of the commands for any/all users.
As a direct response to M3t comes SimpleHome Its not a replacement for anything thats out there, just a fullfiled request :X